Reiki & Relationships Part 2: Trusting Yourself to Receive the Love You Desire

Hey, Radiant Soul!

There was a time I kept attracting the same type of partner repeatedly.

Different names. Different stories.But underneath? The same energetic thread.

They were emotionally unavailable, unclear about what they wanted, or pulled me in just enough to keep me hoping—but never deeply supported me in the ways I longed for.

And the most challenging part? I didn’t realize I was co-creating it.

I thought I was just unlucky. I thought I was “too much,” “not enough,” or “too sensitive.” But really, I was still showing up in love, hoping to be chosen instead of standing in the energy of someone who gets to choose.

This shift changed my relationships. More than that—it changed my relationship with myself.

“A relationship is one of life’s greatest teachers.”

There’s a quote by Jillian Turecki that hit me in the heart the moment I read it:

“A relationship is one of life’s greatest teachers. It will challenge you to communicate, to be vulnerable, and to show up. A relationship is not where we go to avoid ourselves. It’s where we go to confront ourselves and grow.”

This is exactly what Reiki has shown me—over and over again.

Love isn’t just about merging with another person. It’s about meeting the parts of ourselves we’ve left behind. And when we enter relationships without healing those places, we end up chasing connection from a place of survival, not sovereignty.

Communication Isn’t the Same as Connection

There was a time I would get excited by a text from an ex. Just a “thinking of you” or “hope you’re well” would send my nervous system into overdrive. Hope. Longing. A chance to feel seen again, even if just for a moment.

But what I’ve learned through both Reiki and deep inner work is this:

• Communication is not the same as connection.

• Words don’t always equal presence.

Reaching out doesn’t always mean readiness.

And as hard as that realization was, it was also freeing.

I began to see how often I confused proximity with partnership, how often I held onto the possibility of love instead of standing in the clarity of what I actually needed.

We Are the Most Connected and the Most Lonely

On a podcast the other day, I heard someone say:

“We’re the most connected generation—and yet, we’re also the loneliest.”

And I felt that in my chest.

We text constantly, scroll for hours, and are flooded with updates, heart emojis, and check-ins.But how often do we feel truly held? Truly seen?

This is why energy work matters. Healing isn’t just about managing symptoms or attracting a partner—it’s about creating the inner conditions for connection to thrive.

From “Lucky to Be Chosen” to Embodied Worthiness

Looking back, I can see how deeply I internalized the idea that being chosen was the prize.

I should feel grateful if someone liked me, texted me, or wanted me.

But that mindset came at a cost. It made me silence my needs, override my intuition, and stay too long in situations that didn’t feel emotionally safe because I thought at least someone wanted me.

Now, I understand that choosing myself first doesn’t mean I don’t want connection—it means I want a connection that honors the version of me who no longer performs to feel loved.

Reiki Helped Me Rebuild My Energy at the Root

Before Reiki, I kept trying to “heal” by overanalyzing. I read every article, took every quiz, and made lists of what I was doing “wrong.”

But none of that reached the deeper layers where my body held fear.

Fear of abandonment.Fear of being too much. Fear that if I were fully seen, I’d be rejected.

Reiki invited me into a different kind of healing—not fixing, not figuring out, but feeling. I was with the ache, letting the energy move, and letting the breath soften what my body had been bracing against for years.

That’s what nervous system healing does. It doesn’t promise that you’ll never feel fear again. It simply helps you not let fear lead.

Energy Healing as a Pathway to Healthy Love

The more I practiced Reiki, hands-on my heart, breathed deeply into my belly, and chanted gentle mantras of “I am safe to receive,” the more I realized love wasn’t about luck.

It was about frequency.

And I had been living with the frequency of proof.

Proving I was lovable. Proving I was low-maintenance. Proving I could handle anything.

But love isn’t meant to be proven. It’s intended to be felt. And it begins with how we show up for ourselves when nobody is texting.

What It Means to Be the One Who Chooses

These days, I no longer get butterflies from breadcrumbs. I don’t chase clarity from people who only show up in cycles, and I don’t confuse minimum effort with energy alignment.

Being the one who chooses means:

• I choose to protect my peace.

• I choose to enjoy the process and have grace.

• I choose grounded connection over chaotic longing.

• I choose myself, even when it’s lonely.

  
  

And every time I return to my Reiki practice, I remember the version of me who feels loved already exists. She’s not waiting for someone else to validate her. She’s not desperate for attention—she’s devoted to alignment.

Energy Practices to Shift from Performing to Receiving

These are the rituals I come back to when I feel myself slipping into old patterns:

🌕 Self-Reiki for Reclaiming Worth: Lie in bed, place one hand on your heart and one on your solar plexus, and breathe. Repeat: “I am not here to be chosen—I am here to choose. I am safe to be loved for who I am.”

🌕 EFT for Clearing Proving Energy: Tap through the points while saying: “Even though I’ve worked so hard to be enough, I choose to believe I already am.”

🌕 Scripting as If Love Is Already Here: Write a journal entry from the perspective of your most supported self: “This morning, we made coffee together. We laughed about nothing. I felt seen. I felt calm. I felt like I didn’t have to perform to be loved.”

🌕 Dance Manifestation: Put on music that makes you feel magnetic and move like someone already deeply cherished. Let your body remember what joy feels like without needing a partner to give it permission.

🌕 The BLAT Method (Believe–Feel–Act as Them): Ask yourself: “What would the version of me who feels deeply loved believe today? How would she feel in her body? What would she choose?”

Final Thoughts: Love That Lasts Starts with Energy That’s Grounded

If you’ve ever wondered:

• Why do I keep attracting the same person?

• Why do I feel anxious in love even when things are going well?

• Why do I still chase people who don’t truly see me?

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You’re not broken. You’re becoming aware. And that awareness is where everything starts to shift.

Because when you regulate your energy and remember your worth, you stop chasing love that costs your peace—and start aligning with love that feels like home.

You are not too sensitive. You are not too complicated. You are not too much.

You are just deeply aware of what your soul needs. And that’s your power.

Let Reiki support you in reclaiming it. Let it soothe the fear. Let it hold the version of you that’s learning to trust again.

Affirm this with me:

“I no longer chase love—I align with love that meets me where I am.”

Ready to go deeper?

If this resonated, here’s how you can take the next step:

💛 Book a Reiki session to begin healing the patterns beneath the surface and realigning with love that feels mutual and grounded. Book Here

💛 Download my free EFT tapping guide with two complete scripts to help you release limiting beliefs and shift your energy toward love and alignment. Download Here

You don’t need to wait until you’re “perfect” to be loved. You need to return to your truth. Let’s begin.

With gratitude, keep shining ✨

Natalie